Handfasting

Hands joined as a vow

A handfasting is a promise of marriage, or the ceremony in which that promise is made. The pair hold hands, or have them wrapped or tied together, and say in front of others that they accept one another. The name grew from an old verb, to handfast, meaning to strike a bargain, and especially a marriage bargain. It stands where law, religion and family meet: the clasped hands and the spoken words once did the work that a register and a licensed officiant now do. The act is plain and travels easily, which is part of why it lasts.

Ireland's legal unions

In Ireland the story is wider than a hand-binding rite. Early Irish legal texts treat marriage as a contract tied to property, sorting unions by what each partner contributed. Donnchadh Ó Corráin lists the principal forms, named for those contributions: the marriage of common contribution, the union on a man's contribution, the union on a woman's contribution. Church law and native custom also ran side by side. Art Cosgrove describes a country where some regions answered to English law while Gaelic areas kept the older Brehon law. Canon law taught that the couple's free consent made the marriage, a public ceremony being preferred but not required. Reformers objected to the older custom allowing divorce and remarriage. How far a fixed pre-Christian Irish rite existed cannot be settled from what survives.

Scotland's year unions

In Scotland the word carried several senses: a formal betrothal, an irregular marriage, and, in later reports from the Highlands and the Hebrides, a union lasting a year, which Gaelic calls pòsadh-bliadhna, or year-marriage. One record from February 1539 shows Marie Pieris, an attendant of Mary of Guise, handfasted to Lord Seton at Falkland Palace. Martin Martin, writing late in the seventeenth century, told of a Skye custom where a couple lived together for a year before marrying for good or parting. The Statutes of Iona of 1609 tried to stop unions made for a fixed term. In 1958 A. E. Anton made the case that the trial-marriage story leaned on late, romantic writers such as Thomas Pennant and Walter Scott, though Martin wrote almost a century before Pennant.

England's troth-plight

In England the word covered roughly the twelfth to the seventeenth centuries, naming a betrothal or the ceremony at which a couple declared they took one another as husband and wife. It came about a month before the church wedding and bound them at once: church courts held that the vows alone made a marriage, which only death could end, whether or not the pair then lived together. Each took the other's right hand in turn and spoke their acceptance aloud before witnesses, hence the name troth-plight. Rings, a coin split in two and other tokens were exchanged. The 1753 Marriage Act, tightening the rules against secret weddings, brought the custom to an end in England.

A neopagan wedding rite

From at least the late 1960s the word was taken up by Celtic neopagans and Wiccans for their weddings, with Hans Holzer apparently the first to use it in print. A 1970 handfasting between Jim Morrison and Patricia Kennealy was described in a 1980 biography and shown in the 1991 film The Doors, with Kennealy herself playing the priestess. In the early 2000s the term moved into wider wedding speech, often labelled pre-Christian by planners, though the evidence for that label is thin. Where it stands now: a living religious ceremony for some, a symbolic extra for others, and a historical betrothal custom in the record.

How Handfasting is kept

Those who marry this way gather with at least one witness. The couple stand facing each other and take hands, or a cord, ribbon or cloth is wound around their joined hands, sometimes tied in a knot, and they speak their promise aloud. In the older English form the man and then the woman took the other's right hand and named each other as husband and wife; rings or a broken coin might be given. Betrothals made this way could be undone later only if the couple had not slept together. Today a celebrant often leads the binding inside a larger wedding.

When and where

In England the betrothal ceremony usually fell about a month before the church wedding, and was expected to be followed by one soon after. Today couples who keep it often include a handfasting on the wedding day itself. There is no fixed season or date.

The custom belongs to Ireland, Scotland and England, and to Germanic-speaking parts of Europe in the medieval and early modern record. Ireland and Scotland are where it is most often recalled now, through Gaelic and Celtic-inspired weddings. Scotland's Highland and Hebridean reports, especially from Skye, are the best known. Neopagan groups in the English-speaking world keep it as a rite of their own.

What Handfasting means

The joined hands carry the whole meaning: two people making one promise, in public, with their own bodies. In the English form the spoken vow did the legal work, so the gesture and the words were the marriage. Later tellings give the bound hands a gentler sense, of two lives tied together and a bond that holds. For neopagans the cord is a sacred sign of a vow made before their gods and their community. For historians the same act shows how marriage was once a contract as much as a sacrament.

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See also

Jumping the broomA wedding ritual where newlyweds leap over a broom to mark their unionSaint Stephen's DayA Christian feast day celebrating the first martyr with feasts, rides and folk customs.GarbaA Gujarati circle dance performed around a sacred flame during the festival of NavratriKwanjulaA formal marriage introduction ritual of the Baganda people in Uganda, where families meet to exchange gifts and seek bl

Good reading and sources

• Handfasting on WikipediaEncyclopedia
• More photos on Wikimedia CommonsPhotos and video
• Wikidata recordOpen data

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