Pre-Cana

What it is

A couple who want to marry in a Catholic church are encouraged to spend time getting ready, and in the United States the courses and meetings they attend are commonly called Pre-Cana. Under canon law, the church's own rules, the point is to check that both people are free to marry and able to make the commitment. Dioceses and parishes run the programmes, so no two are quite the same. Some are long courses, some short, and one form of Pre-Cana is offered online. All of them sit alongside the wedding plans.

How couples prepare

Often the preparation runs over about six months. A priest or deacon leads it, and a married Catholic couple often helps, which gives engaged couples a chance to hear from people who have already made that promise. Formats vary widely: group sessions, a weekend retreat, or a sponsor couple who meet the engaged pair regularly. Where a couple cannot attend in person, because of military service or distance, a military or college chaplain may prepare them instead, though the minister who will preside at the wedding still has to coordinate it.

Topics couples discuss

The bishops' conference in the United States calls some subjects must-have conversations, meaning they should come up before the wedding rather than after. They include faith and spirituality, how to settle arguments, work and careers, money, intimacy and living together, children, commitment, and natural family planning. Other matters may also be covered: planning the ceremony itself, the families each person grew up in, how the couple talks to one another, marriage as a sacrament, sexuality, couple prayer, and the particular pressures on military couples, stepfamilies, and children whose parents have divorced.

History

The courses grew out of Cana Conferences, which started in the 1940s. Their aim was to defend Christian family life against what their organizers saw as the advance of secularism. Unlike retreats, which were often held separately for men and women, these conferences brought husband and wife together to grow in faith side by side. They were not only for Catholics: Father Edward Dowling is recorded as hosting conferences that Protestant and Jewish couples attended. By the 1970s the conferences had become the Pre-Cana courses known today, and a document issued in 1965 had already noted both the need to help engaged couples and the part married lay people could play.

Rules and timing

Requirements come from each diocese, and in the United States every one of them asks couples to give real time to preparation. As of 2004, more than seventy dioceses wanted a first face-to-face meeting with a parish priest or deacon at least six months before the wedding, and the trend was toward finishing everything at least six weeks ahead. The bishops' conference allows for couples who cannot prepare together in one place, and it says the minister who will preside must keep the process coordinated.

How Pre-Cana is kept

An engaged couple meets their parish priest or deacon, often half a year or more before the wedding date. From there they may join a group course, go on a weekend retreat, or be matched with a married couple who act as sponsors and meet them over several weeks. Sessions are usually led by a priest or deacon, with a married Catholic couple helping. Couples talk through questions about faith, money, work, children and conflict, and about the sacrament itself. Near the end, the presiding minister confirms that the preparation is complete, which is needed before the wedding can go ahead.

When and where

There is no single date. The timing is set by each diocese and parish, and most couples begin months before the wedding. Many dioceses ask for a first face-to-face meeting with a priest or deacon at least six months ahead, and a growing number want the whole preparation finished at least six weeks before the ceremony.

Marriage preparation is part of Catholic practice worldwide, but the sources describe it in detail in the United States, where every diocese requires it. Courses and formats differ from one diocese and parish to the next, so what a couple does depends on where they marry.

What Pre-Cana means

The name points to the wedding at Cana in John's Gospel, where Jesus turned water into wine: a sign that a marriage is more than a private arrangement. Preparation treats the wedding as a sacrament, a promise made before God and the community. Couples are asked to see themselves as two people growing together in faith, and the married couples who help them are living out that belief rather than only teaching it.

Questions people ask about Pre-Cana

See also

Islamic marriageThe sacred contract, agreement and wedding celebration forming an Islamic marriageMatchmakingThe custom of using a trusted intermediary to introduce partners for marriageRite of passageA ceremony that marks leaving one group and entering another, with a new statusMarriage proposalA ritual where one partner asks another to marry them, marking the start of engagement.

Good reading and sources

• Marriage preparation in the Catholic Church on WikipediaEncyclopedia
• Wikidata recordOpen data

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