Ngerorod

What it is

Ngerorod is a Balinese marriage custom. The source also gives it the English label elopement, meaning a couple marry without waiting for permission from those in authority over them. It is one of several traditional ways of marrying in Bali. What sets it apart is who begins it: the man and the woman themselves. They agree between them to build a household, and their own wish carries the step forward. The source calls ngerorod the first step of a marriage, not the whole ceremony, and says it is undertaken only by the will of the two people concerned.

Why couples take it

A ngerorod marriage usually begins with affection. Two people love each other and want to set up a home together. Something then blocks the ordinary path. Their parents may refuse, other relatives may object, or the wider community may disapprove. When that happens, the couple can still marry through ngerorod. The source presents it as a route open to people whose relationship is held back by family or society. The decision belongs to the pair themselves rather than to anyone standing over them.

Conditions to be met

The source sets out four conditions for a ngerorod marriage. Neither person may already be married. Neither may have a mental illness. Both must reach the age that Hindu law requires. And the two must not be close blood relatives of a kind that religious rules forbid to marry. Balinese customary law, Hindu religious law and local custom all speak to these requirements. They are the checks that must hold before the marriage goes ahead. Where they do, the couple may proceed by this route.

Law and faith

Ngerorod sits inside the legal and religious systems of Bali. The source says it is regulated by Balinese Customary Law and by Hindu Religious Law, and also through customary custom. Within Hinduism a marriage made this way is accepted as valid, so a couple who marry by ngerorod are not outside their faith's rules. That recognition carries weight, because ngerorod often happens where permission was refused. Religious acceptance gives the marriage standing among the people who keep these customs. The source treats the practice as an accepted part of Balinese Hindu marriage.

How Ngerorod is kept

Ngerorod starts with the two people themselves. A man and a woman who wish to marry decide together, since the source says the step rests on their own will and no one else's. The conditions are checked first: neither is already married, neither has a mental illness, both meet the age Hindu law sets, and the pair are not close blood relatives whose match religious rules forbid. Once those hold, they marry by this route. The source describes ngerorod as the first step of the marriage rather than its whole, and the marriage is valid under Hindu law.

When and where

Ngerorod belongs to Bali and to Balinese Hindus. The source ties it to the Hindu community and to Balinese customary law, so it is strongest on the island and among families who follow those customs. It is named as one of Bali's traditional marriage systems, kept alongside the other customary ways of marrying.

What Ngerorod means

Ngerorod places the couple's own choice at the centre of a marriage. Love and shared intent begin the household, and the source says the step rests on the will of the man and the woman alone. It also keeps the marriage within the community's rules: customary law and Hindu religious law regulate it, and Hindu practice accepts it as valid. For Balinese Hindus it carries standing and approval rather than shame, even when parents or community objected at the start.

Questions people ask about Ngerorod

See also

Tooth ablationA global custom of deliberately removing healthy teeth for social, ritual, or aesthetic reasons.Saber archA wedding custom where sabers form an arch for the couple to walk through.IkatA resist-dyeing craft from Southeast Asia, where yarns are tied and dyed before weavingKenduriA communal prayer meal and gathering shared across Indonesia, Malaysia and Brunei

Good reading and sources

• Ngerorod on WikipediaEncyclopedia
• Wikidata recordOpen data

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