Life-cycle rites

Life-cycle rites mark the great changes in a human life: birth, naming, coming of age, marriage and death. Every society has them, and they teach a good deal about what a community values. They bring families together and give everyone a script for what to do and say. Here they are gathered from every region, from the Yoruba naming ceremony to the Korean first birthday, the Jewish bar mitzvah and the Maori tangi, each described as those who keep them do.

Beginnings

Birth rites welcome a child and protect mother and baby, with rest, special food, blessings and a name. Many cultures wait a few days or weeks before naming, until the child is stronger. Some give a first haircut, a first food or a first outing as small rites of their own. Godparents, aunts, grandmothers and neighbours all have parts. The common thread is the community making room for a newcomer and promising to help them grow.

Marriage and death

At the other turning points, rites give structure to joy and to grief. Weddings join two families with vows, gifts and feasts, and funerals gather the community to honour the person and support the bereaved. Both are long, with preparation before and customs after, from henna nights to the seven days of shiva. They also tie individual lives to a tradition older than any one family, which many people find a comfort at those moments.