Wedding cord

What it is

The wedding cord is a length of white satin or silk worked into a loop, in the manner of a string of rosary beads. During the marriage rite it is opened out and crossed into the shape of a figure of eight. Not every Catholic wedding uses one. The couples who do often come from Hispanic families, and the object belongs to the blessings and signs that surround the vows. After the celebration the bride usually takes the cord home and keeps it among her wedding keepsakes.

How the rite unfolds

The cord comes into play usually after the couple have spoken their vows, and in many services after the veils have been laid over the bride and groom. Two people, often friends or relatives chosen for the task, set it in place. The groom is looped first, at the shoulder, and the loops then rest on both of them. Pins hold it steady. Some couples prefer to have the cord wound around their wrists instead. It stays on the couple until the service finishes, and the same two helpers take it off at the end.

Cord of three strands

A second form of the rite belongs to the bride and groom alone. The groom keeps hold of one end of a three-stranded cord, the end fitted with a metal ring, and the bride plaits the strands together. Words explaining the braiding are read aloud, or music plays, or a song is sung, while she works. A rubber band holds the finished braid for the moment, then a gold thread fixes it for good. The completed loop is read as a sign of the sacramental union, or as the "yoke of marriage".

Approval for Catholic use

Prayers for the Spanish form of this blessing were accepted for church use in the United States in 2010, when the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops gave its approval. Six years later, in September 2016, a text in English was also accepted and set within the Order of Celebrating Matrimony, the church's book for weddings. The arras, the coins exchanged by the couple, appear in the same place. The Spanish wording came first, and the English text followed.

What it means

The cord carries two ideas for the families who use it. One is union: husband and wife are bound to each other for the whole of their lives, and the crossing loops are read as their love. The other is protection, a covering over the marriage. Something similar is read into the braid of three strands, taken by some as the sacrament itself and by others as the yoke, or shared burden, of married life. Keeping the cord afterwards lets a couple hold on to the day.

How Wedding cord is kept

Two chosen helpers take charge of the cord. After the vows, and usually after the veils are placed on the couple, they lay it over the bride and groom while the two kneel, the groom first, at the shoulders. Pins keep it from slipping, and some couples have it looped around the wrists instead. It stays there for the rest of the service and is then lifted off by the same two helpers. In the other form, the groom holds a ringed end of a three-stranded cord and the bride braids it while words, music or a song explain what she is doing. The bride keeps the cord afterwards.

When and where

The cord belongs to the marriage service itself rather than to a date in the year. It is usually placed on the couple after they have spoken their vows, and often after the veils have been laid over them. It remains in place until the service is finished, and is then removed.

The custom is at home among Catholic families in Hispanic countries, and the sources name Mexico, the Philippines and Spain as places where it is common. It belongs to weddings rather than to a shrine or a town, so no single site is tied to it.

What Wedding cord means

Those who use the cord read union and protection in it. Husband and wife are bound together for life, and the loops crossing each other stand for their love. The lassoing itself is understood as the joining of two people in marriage for all their years. Where the braid of three strands is used, it may be taken as the sacramental union or as the yoke of marriage. After the day is over, the cord becomes a keepsake of the promises made.

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See also

Filipino wedding customsA blend of indigenous rituals and Christian traditions marking the union of two families in the Philippines.Las arrasThirteen gold coins, blessed at a wedding and given by the groom to the brideSaint Stephen's DayA Christian feast day celebrating the first martyr with feasts, rides and folk customs.BirriaA rich, seasoned meat stew from western Mexico, cooked for gatherings and holidays

Good reading and sources

• Wedding cord on WikipediaEncyclopedia
• More photos on Wikimedia CommonsPhotos and video
• Wikidata recordOpen data

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