🇸🇦 Saudi Arabia
Arabic coffee, qahwa, with cardamom is poured by the host in tiny cups, starting with the eldest guest, and refilled until the guest shakes the cup. Dates are offered with it.
Read: Arabic coffeeHospitality and welcome
Guests are treated as a blessing in most of the world, and many cultures have elaborate rules for welcoming them.
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Guests are treated as a blessing in most of the world, and many cultures have elaborate rules for welcoming them. A cup of coffee in Arabia, tea in Central Asia, bread and salt in Russia, a lei in Hawaii, a kava bowl in Fiji, an extra place at the table in Greece: these are small acts with deep roots. Hospitality is a duty in faith and in law in many societies, and a way of showing a household's honour. The customs describe who enters first, what is offered, how often it is refused and accepted, and how a guest should leave. Here is how welcome is given around the world.
What it is for
Hospitality began as survival, since travellers in deserts, mountains and long roads depended on a stranger's door. It grew into a moral code, taught by religions and honoured in sayings and stories, such as Abraham's welcome to the angels or the Greek rule of xenia. Today it also shows the household's character, and a good host is admired. It builds trust between families, between neighbours and between peoples who have never met. A guest, in turn, is expected to be gracious and to give thanks, and sometimes to bring a gift.
Common elements across cultures
The welcome has steps: a greeting at the door, the removal of shoes in many places, a seat of honour, drink and food offered at once, and conversation before any business. The host often refuses payment and presses more food on the guest, while the guest may decline once or twice before accepting. Gifts, such as sweets, flowers or fruit, are exchanged. Many cultures protect the guest for the duration of a visit, and some require that the host walks the guest out and stays until he is out of sight.
Food, dress and music
The first offering is usually something to drink: coffee with cardamom, tea, water, yoghurt drink or a small glass of spirits. Sweets and fruit follow, then a meal, and the host will often prepare more than the guests can eat. Dress for a guest ranges from the formal to a garland of flowers. Music may be a song of welcome, a pipe, a group dance or a hum of conversation. Gifts of food, particularly sweets, dates and wine, are exchanged on arrival, and a doggy bag of leftovers is often sent home with the guest.
How it is changing
Smaller homes, busy lives and restaurants mean fewer open-house evenings in many cities, but the habits persist in other forms: the dinner invitation, the potluck and the neighbourhood tea. Travel has created new hospitality, as home-stay networks, couch-surfing and communal meals bring strangers into homes. Tourism boards in many countries promote welcome traditions, from the Georgian supra to Saudi coffee. Many people also find the old rules a comfort, an anchor in a quicker world, and teach them to their children as part of the family heritage.
Hospitality and welcome around the world
🇦🇪 United Arab Emirates
Majlis, a sitting room where guests are received, is central to Emirati hospitality, with coffee, dates and incense. The host stays and serves, and the whole family joins on feast days.
Read: Majlis🇮🇳 India
"Atithi Devo Bhava", the guest is god, is a saying from the Taittiriya Upanishad that still shapes the Indian welcome. A guest is offered water, tea and food at once, and is rarely allowed to leave hungry.
Read: Atithi Devo Bhava🇳🇵 Nepal
Guests are garlanded, given a tika on the forehead and offered tea, rice and dal. The host serves the meal and encourages second helpings.
Tika, being written🇯🇵 Japan
Omotenashi is the wholehearted, anticipatory care of a guest, from the tea ceremony to the ryokan, where every detail is prepared before it is asked for. Shoes are left at the door and slippers are offered.
Omotenashi, being written🇰🇿 Kazakhstan
A guest is seated opposite the door in the place of honour and is given tea and a dish of boiled meat, beshbarmak, with the head of the sheep offered to the most honoured. Guests who arrive unexpectedly are welcome.
Read: BeshbarmakTraditions to start with
Arabic coffeeThe cardamom coffee of welcome.
Habesha coffee ceremonyA long ritual of friendship.
PōwhiriThe Maori welcome.
Bread and saltThe Slavic welcome.
TaarofIranian politeness.Also part of it, and being written: Supra (The Georgian feast.), Omotenashi (Japanese hospitality.), Kava culture (The Fijian kava gift.).
Questions people ask
Is it rude to refuse food or drink?
In many cultures refusing the first offer is expected, but repeated refusal can seem unfriendly. A small taste or a sip is a polite compromise.
Should I bring a gift?
Usually yes, something small: sweets, fruit, flowers or a regional product. In Muslim homes avoid alcohol, and in Chinese homes avoid clocks and white flowers.
Why do hosts insist on more food?
It shows generosity and care, and a full plate is a sign that the guest is well treated. A guest may leave a little food to signal that he has had enough, in some cultures.
Do I take off my shoes?
In many places, including much of Asia, the Middle East and parts of Europe, yes. Look for shoes at the door and follow the household.
How do I thank my host?
A sincere word of thanks, a compliment about the meal and a later message or invitation in return are universal courtesies, and in some cultures a small gift on leaving.
About this page
Written by the EveryParampara desk with AI assistance. Customs differ from place to place and family to family. If this is your tradition and we have it wrong, tell us.
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🇮🇪 Ireland and 1 moreSamhain
A Gaelic festival marking the start of winter with bonfires and ancestor feastsSeasonal · Feasts and festival meals
🇱🇧 Beirut, Lebanon and 7 moreEid il-Burbaraعيد البربارة
A winter feast of costumes, sweet boiled wheat, and sprouting seeds across the LevantFestival · Feasts and festival meals
🇻🇳 VietnamTếtTết Nguyên Đán
The Vietnamese festival of the lunar new year, welcoming spring with family gatheringsFestival · Feasts and festival meals
🇸🇪 Sweden and 2 moreGlögg
A spiced, warm winter wine served across Nordic countries around ChristmasTable custom · Tea, coffee and drinking ceremonies
🇷🇸 Serbia and 5 moreSerbian ChristmasБожић
A three-day midwinter observance focused on oak logs, floor straw and family gatheringsSpiritual · Dinner
🇲🇽 Oaxaca, Mexico and 1 moreGuelaguetza
An annual Oaxacan festival of indigenous dance, music, costumes and communal sharingFestival
🇮🇳 India and 2 morePandal
Temporary decorated pavilions and arches built for festivals and gatheringsFestival
🇸🇪 Stockholm, Sweden and 2 moreSmorgasbordsmörgåsbord
A Swedish table of hot and cold dishes where guests serve themselvesTable custom · Lunch
🇹🇷 Edirne, TurkeyKırkpınar
A three-day Turkish oil wrestling contest near Edirne, held each June since 1360Game
🇧🇬 Bulgaria and 4 moreBabindenБабинден
A Bulgarian feast honoring midwives and new mothers with rituals of bathing, feasting, and blessing.Festival · Feasts and festival meals
🇺🇸 United States and 3 moreWedding reception
The party after a wedding, where the couple greet guests over food, cake and dancingFestival · Feasts and festival meals
🇵🇱 PolandWigilia
Poland's meatless Christmas Eve supper, begun when the first star appearsTable custom · Feasts and festival meals
🇮🇱 Jerusalem, Israel and 5 moreBar and bat mitzvahבַּר מִצְוָה / בַּת מִצְוָה
A Jewish rite of passage marking when youth reach adulthood and take responsibility for their own actions.Rite of passage · Feasts and festival meals
🇷🇺 RussiaRussian wedding traditions
A Russian wedding runs two days to a week, with ransom games, crowns and toastsRite of passage
🇨🇳 China and 6 moreRed envelope紅包 / 红包 (hóngbāo)
Money in a red packet, given at Lunar New Year, weddings and other big daysEtiquette
🇺🇸 United States and 1 moreTailgate party
Grilling, sharing and drinking beside a car before the game, mostly in North AmericaTable custom · Feasts and festival meals
🇵🇷 Puerto Rico and 1 moreParranda
A Puerto Rican Christmas custom of night-time visits with songs, food and drinkPerformance · Supper
🇮🇩 Jakarta, Indonesia and 3 moreRijsttafel
Many small dishes around rice: a colonial-era banquet still served in the NetherlandsTable custom · Feasts and festival meals
🇮🇩 Bali, IndonesiaTumpengꦠꦸꦩ꧀ꦥꦼꦁ (Javanese); ᬢᬸᬫ᭄ᬧᭂᬂ (Balinese)
A tall cone of rice ringed with side dishes, central to Javanese ceremonies and partiesTable custom · Feasts and festival meals
🇮🇱 Israel and 2 moreSukkahסוכה
A temporary hut with a branch roof, lived in for the seven days of SukkotSpiritual
🇵🇰 PakistanPakistani weddingپاکستانی شادی
Weddings across Pakistan: a match is found, a contract signed, two families joinedRite of passage
🇮🇳 India and 1 moreYajnaयज्ञ
A Hindu ritual of offering items into a sacred fire to honor deities and ancestors.Spiritual
🇬🇷 GreeceSymposiumσυμπόσιον
An ancient Greek post-meal gathering for diluted wine, debate, music and lively gamesTable custom · Tea, coffee and drinking ceremonies
🇧🇬 Bulgaria and 5 moreKoledariколядники
A Slavic winter caroling custom of visiting homes with songs, masks and blessingsFestival
🇮🇹 Rome, ItalyMegalesiaMegalenses Ludi
An ancient Roman spring festival of theatrical plays, races and feasts for CybeleFestival · Feasts and festival meals
🇮🇹 Italy and 5 morePatronal festivalFiesta patronal
A town's yearly feast for its patron saint, with processions, a fair and shared foodFestival
🇬🇷 Amyclae, GreeceHyacinthiaὙακίνθια
A three-day ancient Spartan festival marking the death and rebirth of HyacinthusFestival · Feasts and festival meals
🇵🇱 Kraków, Poland and 5 moreTurońTuroń (Polish), Turoň (Slovak)
A shaggy horned beast led from house to house by carol singers at carnival timeFolklore
🇺🇸 United States and 5 moreStatue rubbing
A global custom of touching public statues to seek luck, love, or a return to the city.Festival
🇮🇸 IcelandChristmas in IcelandJól
A winter festival of mountain folklore, family feasts and thirteen mischievous visitorsFestival · Dinner
🇮🇹 Gubbio, Italy and 1 moreSaint Ubaldo DayFesta dei Ceri
A May procession in Gubbio where three teams carry tall wooden ceri to a hilltop basilicaSpiritual
🇪🇹 EthiopiaFichee-Chambalaalla
A moveable new year festival of the Sidama people in Ethiopia.Festival · Feasts and festival meals
🇨🇾 Limassol, CyprusWine Festival of CyprusΓιορτή του Κρασιού
An annual autumn celebration of winemaking, folklore and food in Limassol, CyprusFestival · Tea, coffee and drinking ceremonies
🇸🇪 Sweden and 2 moreSaint Knut's DayTjugondag Knut
A Nordic holiday marking the twentieth and final day of Christmas each JanuarySeasonal · Sweets given and shared
🇩🇿 AlgeriaWezeeaوزيعة
A communal meat-sharing custom fostering rural solidarity across AlgeriaSpiritual · Feasts and festival meals
🇪🇬 Egypt and 5 moreArab weddingزفاف or عرس
A series of ceremonies marking marriage in Arab culture, blending religious rites with regional customs.Rite of passage · Feasts and festival meals
🇪🇬 Alexandria, EgyptSerapia
A Roman state feast for the god Serapis, kept on 25 April in Egypt and at RomeSpiritual
🇮🇷 Iran and 1 moreEidiyahعيدية
The holiday custom of presenting cash and gifts to children and relativesFestival
🇮🇳 India and 1 morePunjabi wedding traditions
The multi-day marriage customs and rituals of Hindu and Sikh Punjabi familiesRite of passage · Sweets given and shared
Photo credits on this page
The small pictures above come from Wikimedia Commons under free licences. Some are cropped to fit.
- Zajal: 13th century artist, Public domain, source
- Serapia: Unknown author, CC BY 2.5, source
- Samhain: Daniel Maclise, Public domain, source
- Eid il-Burbara: Durziil89, CC0, source
- Tết: vi:Lưu Ly, Public domain, source
- Saint Ubaldo Day: Marco Riccardini, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Glögg: Mr.choppers, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Serbian Christmas: Petar Milošević, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Guelaguetza: A01321718, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Pandal: SHUBHAM KR SONI, CC0, source
- Arabic coffee: Canbel, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Pōwhiri: Governor General of New Zealand, CC BY 4.0, source
- Habesha coffee ceremony: sameffron, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Smorgasbord: Jordan Klein, CC BY 2.0, source
- Kırkpınar: anonymous Greek artist, ca. 1809, Public domain, source
- Korovai: Olli Niemitalo, CC0, source
- Babinden: Unknown author, Public domain, source
- Wedding reception: Konstantin Makovsky, Public domain, source
- Wigilia: Przykuta, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Bar and bat mitzvah: Peter van der Sluijs, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Russian wedding traditions: GeorgeLouis, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Red envelope: Oldie~commonswiki, Public domain, source
- Yajna: Chainwit., CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Tailgate party: Ben Vardi, Public domain, source
- Parranda: Marine 69-71, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Rijsttafel: Takeaway, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Taarof: Oxlaey, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Tumpeng: brother-harahap, CC BY 2.0, source
- Sukkah: Gilabrand, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Pakistani wedding: Rukhsana iqbal, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Patronal festival: Ranieljosecastaneda, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Turoń: Museum: The Seweryn Udziela Ethnographic Museum in Kraków, CC0, source
- Christmas in Iceland: Bryan Ledgard, CC BY 2.0, source
- Fichee-Chambalaalla: User:Kebede asefa, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Wine Festival of Cyprus: George M. Groutas, CC BY 2.0, source
- Symposium: Nikias Painter, CC BY 2.5, source
- Koledari: Mikhail Germashev, Public domain, source
- Statue rubbing: Matthias Rosenkranz, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Punjabi wedding traditions: Unknown author, Public domain, source
- Eidiyah: Rahbar Emamdadi, CC BY 4.0, source